Unraveling Control, Empowering Change.

For Survivors, by a Survivor.

LO Chandler (She/Her)

LO is a survivor of the highs and lows of coercive control, with lived experience across a variety of contexts: family systems, academia, cults, domestic abuse, communities and subcultures. Her work is grounded in both personal insight and formal study, blending sociology, psychology, and trauma-informed care to support others navigating complex power dynamics.

Neurodivergent, queer, and polyamorous, Lo understands the challenge of moving through a world shaped by control, conformity, and top-down power structures. As a bottom-up thinker, she brings a unique lens to the subtle dynamics of coercion and survival. A lifelong student of power, Lo weaves together lived experience and formal study—including her work as a Kink and BDSM educator, where she deepened her understanding of consent, autonomy, and relational power. Her current research focuses on traumatic repetition across high-control contexts, informed by decades of inquiry into manipulation, domination, and recovery.

Before founding High Control Los in 2022, Lo spent over 20 years in veterinary medicine, where she developed a deep fluency in the body’s unspoken language. In that work, she learned to read the silent language of suffering—the body’s expression of control and power abuse. Today, as a Somatic Internal Family Systems™ and Brainspotting practitioner, she helps clients untangle internalized control with nervous system awareness, body-based insight, and radical compassion.

Working with Lo means being met where you are with grounded presence and a deep respect for your lived experience. You are the expert of your story—and Lo is here to support your return to choice, safety, and self-trust, paired with an unflinching lens on power, control, and the subtle patterns that keep us stuck—especially when it feels impossible to just say no.

Trauma & NeuroSomatics

Informed Support

This approach integrates trauma awareness and neurosomatics—recognizing how coercive control impacts both the mind, body, and spirit. Nervous system focused recovery for empowerment, helping survivors reconnect with their parts & find a sense of safety and autonomy.

Informed

Lo's approach centers transparency, consent, and pacing. Client centered collaboration—unpacking power dynamics, honoring capacity, and ensuring you’re always in choice throughout the process.

Holistic

Lo aims support the whole person—mind, body, and social context—recognizing that healing from coercive control requires care that honors your lived experience, identity, and environment.

Relational

Healing happens in connection. Grounded in attachment theory, LO approach centers safe, attuned relationships as the foundation for repair, regulation, and rebuilding trust.

Centered

You are the expert of your own experience. Lo aims to prioritize your part's voice, autonomy, and inner wisdom.

Somatic

Our bodies hold what words cannot. Lo uses a nervous system-based approach to help clients reconnect with their internal cues, build safety, and release patterns of control held in the body

Polycentric

We contain multitudes, and in high control we play many roles. Lo's approach honors the complexity of the self through parts work and polycentric awareness—recognizing that healing isn’t linear, and your many inner voices deserve space, compassion, and coherence.